Monthly Archives: March 2014

Upstanding instead of by standing

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As a teacher I approach the topic of bullying through literature.  There are several great books out there that illustrate all of the different forms of bullying.  Not only that, but through reading and discussion it allows my students to think more deeply about how bullying impacts not just those directly involved, but those who also witness the incidents.  This group of individuals known as bystanders has really been the focus of many researcher’s discussions.  This special group of individuals cash either choose to intervene or walk away.  The question arises: How do they decide what kind of bystander they want to be? Teachers and parents follow up that question with one of their own: How can I teach my child to be an up stander instead of a bystander? Adults need to teach children to stand up for they know is right.  A simple word or action (like a smile) truly is worth a million dollars. Many victims of bullying feel lost and alone and all they need is to know that someone out there cares for them.  When they see negative things posted on social media websites, they don’t need to come back with something negative toward the bully, instead they need to come back with something positive for the victim.  This seemingly simple act of kindness will go a long way! Use social media for positive!  Aside from social media, in the classrooms we need to create a culture of kindness through random acts of kindness.  Children need to be reminded that they aren’t always going to be reward for making good decisions.  Eventually, the reward will be intrinsic.  We as adults need to show our students/children how to go about doing random things for others.  Have your students participate in volunteer opportunities: Make cards for soldiers, collect canned goods, make art projects for seniors.  We need to foster positive relationships so that they can stand up for one another instead of standing by.